A Richer Understanding: Compromises for Sanity
Brian Tramuel helms this series. He lives with his wife Michelle, their children Geneva and Brian, and their Cocker Spaniel Maestro in Charlotte, NC. They, along with his two older children from a previous marriage, Davina and Aaron, provide a constant source of inspiration. Aaron lives, works and plays in Charlotte and Davina lives, works and plays in Roanoke, VA.
My wife and I were married in April of this year. Prior, we had known each other for twelve years. There are millions of statistics on why marriages fail; money and communication lead the way. On one hand I can count the number of arguments we’ve had concerning money, however we approach spending and saving very differently.
We are currently shopping for furniture, we need [not want] everything; from our bedrooms, living room, dining room and into the kitchen. Reconciling the old and worn, we decided to focus on a kitchen table first.
We [and by we I mean she] decided on a budget for the table. I wanted to approach it practically by searching online for a style and/or brand and then shop for the best value/deal in store or online. Instead we have visited every showroom in the city with no idea on what we [read: she] wants, unable to agree on any one particular style.
To date, we still do not have a kitchen table.
North Carolina is considered the furniture capital of the world. Our next step will be a forty-five minute excursion to Hickory and High Point North Carolina where we will be able to choose from quality, handcrafted furnishings and hopefully greatly reduced prices. The concentration of manufactures’ and factories should allow for receiving professional advice and make customization more practical.
This experience is teaching me a few things, none more evident than there is no such thing as a compromise. Lol, I’m just serious, someone always gets their way however …
- Try to budget your energy; even it has its limits.
- For greater cost effectiveness, at times it may be better to allow people their own approach and values.