Entitlement Abolition: How to Lead Your Family From “Me” to “We”
Paperback: 196 pages
Publisher: Live Abundant Publications (2016)
A quick internet search for entitlement will yield results in every category imaginable to include; politics, relationships, and work. At this present moment, the holiday season fully upon us, this sense of entitlement leads people to consumerism, self-centeredness, and negativism at the expense of what’s most important in life.
Live Abundant Founder Doug Andrew addresses this sense of entitlement in his book Entitlement Abolition: How to Lead Your Family From “Me” to “We”
For more than 40 years, Douglas R. Andrew has helped thousands of clients achieve a more abundant life through sound principles, innovative strategies, and impassioned dedication to what he calls the Three Dimensions of Authentic Wealth. Through Doug’s multi-faceted prescription, he has helped families achieve greater balance with the Three Dimensions of Authentic Wealth. He has assisted them in establishing a Legacy Bank where they can deposit and distribute KASH (Knowledge, Attitudes, Skills and Habits). He has taught families to thrive through greater responsibility, accountability and ownership; he has empowered families and even workgroups to be united rather than divided; and he has helped people cultivate abundance not just today, but for generations to come.
Touch All the Bases
In the introduction Andrew leads off with a great analogy using the notorious base-running mistake committed by rookie Fred Merkle of the New York Giants in September of 1908. Merkle’s failure to advance to second base on what should have been a game-winning hit led instead to a force-out at second and a tied game.
Andrew considers the bases as assets:
- Home plate – Foundational assets, our possessions: family, health, values, talents, heritage, spirituality, future, etc.
- 1st Base – Intellectual Assets: wisdom, formal education, reputation, systems, methods, traditions, alliances, skills, etc.
- 2nd Base – Financial Assets: material possessions, the things of life
- 3rd Base – Civic or Social Assets: contributions back to society
“To make sure your ‘home runs’ will count in life, remember to touch all of the bases – but don’t stop with just the foundational, intellectual and financial bases. You’ll just score a triple if you don’t play it forward by contributing of your means to others and come back ‘home’ to make it all count.”
Andrew writes Entitlement Abolition to ensure others won’t lose out, believing they are hitting home runs with just their money. This book is also about eliminating the entitlement mentality among children who may have been ‘born on third base’ and grew up thinking they hit a triple.
“The worst thing you can do for those you love is the things they could do for themselves.” ~Abraham Lincoln
Entitlement Abolition focuses on the following lessons:
- The difference between a scarcity and abundance mindset
- The Three Dimensions of Authentic Wealth—especially the two Legacy Dimensions (Foundational and Intellectual)
- How to develop a KASH (Knowledge, Attitudes, Skills and Habits) Blueprint and develop a perpetual Legacy Bank
- How to hold Family Vacations with a Purpose
- How to make deposits and withdrawals from your family’s Legacy Bank
- How to rethink your thinking (and help your children do the same
Andrew delivers the lessons above by using real word examples and analogies throughout Entitlement Abolition that will keep the reader engaged. Identifying what he believes causes entitlement and the entitlement cycle, Andrew then provides a remedy to abolish entitlement through an abundance cycle.
It begins with a period of significant growth, an era filled with expansion in several areas: skills, wisdom, knowledge, affluence, and ways of living. This leads to continued increase, with knowledge, influence and power spurring the development of even more knowledge, influence and power. Wealth and abundance abound … until entitlement creeps in.
As abundance and wealth become a part of everyday life, and everyone benefits. This is where things can take a wrong turn if families aren’t vigilant. Doug Andrew writes that if children aren’t required to practice responsibility, accountability, and financial partnership in things like pursuing education, purchasing cars or homes, or serving humanitarian or religious missions, they can become entitled.
The development of KASH (skills, wisdom, knowledge, affluence, and ways of living)
The increase of KASH and cash
The prosperity of wealth and abundance
You’ll notice the path is the same through the first stages of the entitlement cycle and the abundance cycle. Andrew notes, stage 4 is where things can go right, instead of wrong. When families take proactive measures to reinforce an abundance mentality and instill accountability and responsibility, they are setting up the next generation for success in every aspect of life.
In the next stage families are tasked to establish a Legacy Bank, which is a conceptual bank where you can deposit the knowledge, experiences, strategies, and lessons learned by family members.
If planned and executed well, this Abundance Cycle can go on for generations to come. Having a functional Legacy Bank in place, with the family actively participating in contributing to and withdrawing from the bank, empowers future generations to have early access to moving forward in developing their own KASH and cash.
My favorite chapters also contain my favorite quotes:
Chapter 9, Managing KASH
“Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.”
~ Charles R. Swindoll
Chapter 10, Maximizing CASH
“Making money is easy. It is. The difficult thing in life is not making it, it’s keeping it.”
~ John McAfee
In Chapter 11, Andrews tackles Entitlement in the Workplace – an interesting choice and it makes perfect sense as our entitled children move into adulthood and ultimately the workforce – entitlement at home could very easily transfer to the workplace in the form of laziness, wanting something for nothing, cheating the system and more.
The book closes with Chapter 12’s “Determine the Life You’ll Lead and the Legacy You’ll Leave” where Andrew asks two simple but far reaching questions:
What kind of life do you want to lead?
What kind of legacy do you want to leave?
Entitlement Abolition: How to Lead Your Family From “Me to “We” tackles one of the dangerous E’s in entitlement and captures the significance of recognizing and acknowledging privilege, growth, and work ethic. Challenging the reader to analyze their view of what they believe they do or do not deserve. Then once armed with this self-awareness, the end game is to move from me-centric to we-centric, thriving through greater responsibility, accountability and ownership.
Entitlement Abolition: How to Lead Your Family From “Me to “We” is available at Amazon in Kindle and Paperback formats.