Brian Tramuel helms this series. He lives with his wife Michelle, their children Geneva and Brian, and their Cocker Spaniel Maestro in Charlotte, NC. They, along with his two older children from a previous marriage, Davina and Aaron, provide a constant source of inspiration. Aaron lives, works and plays in Charlotte and Davina lives, works and plays in Roanoke, VA.
Being single or not being single.
Among my single friends, dating is a popular meme. I’ve written about not dating and that most, if not all, of my relationships started because of a propinquity effect. Outside of friends I usually stay away from the social discussions surrounding relationships.
My work involves options trading. The Chicago Board Options Exchange (CBOE) offers customized equity or index option contracts or Flexible Exchange ® Options (FLEX Options). The core of my peers are young (under 30), single and dating. There are discussions daily concerning dating apps, initiating conversation, bloopers, blunders and hook ups. I do believe most are looking for more than the latter as evidence by the overall theme of the conversations.
I use to believe that the popular twitter discussions; two hundred dollar dates and fly outs were exaggerations by some to gain retweets and hearts; literally and figuratively. However, at work I am able to witness both firsthand. One peer while discussing a recent meet up stated that he uses “flex” dates. Flex Options provide investors with the ability to customize key contract terms, virtually eliminate counter-party risk, and an ability to alter positions before expiration. I get it, initially it was met with thunderous laughter, however it makes so much (dollars and) sense.
His process is to meet for coffee, tea, or drinks to determine if there is an interest (for either person) to proceed to an actual date. You are not responsible for others feelings only how you advise them of your disinterest. Spending money when you are not romantically interested in a person who is interested in you is not a good way to advise someone of your disinterest. It wastes their time and most importantly your money. It is much easier to extend coffee to lunch or drinks to dinner if everything is flowing well. Attempting to get to know someone in a dark theatre, loud concert hall or while they are stuffing their face places you in the awkward position of price discovery in a competitive dating market. See what I did there?
I believe anyone can spend a full day with quality relationships offline and online, engage in work they love and spend time in solitude and be completely happy until a romantic partner comes along.